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470 Massachusetts Avenue
PO Box 882
Acton, MA 01720
Phone: 978-263-5333
Fax: 978-263-8193
Tommy Hotaling

Tommy Hotaling

Thursday, February 14th, 2019
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It is with great sadness we announce the passing on February 14, 2019 of "Tommy" (Thomas) Caldwell Hotaling, who was born on March 23, 1948 in New Brunswick NJ, son of Olive C. Hotaling and Burton Hotaling. First wife Louise Pippinger Hotaling is deceased. Tommy is survived by wife Gwen (Burns) Hotaling, son Matthew Hotaling and Meg Gugarty of Watertown, step-daughters Sarah and husband William Salazar of Cambridge, and Mantra and husband Steven Robinson of Oakland CA; grandchildren Miles and Julia Robinson, and Amelia Salazar. Tommy is survived by sister Katherine and husband Andrew Nestler of Seattle WA, and brother James Hotaling of Spokane WA, and numerous nieces, great nieces and great nephews and cousins.

Tommy served proudly in the US Coast Guard for 10 years in the Mediterranean and in the Great Lakes. After completing an associate degree in electronics at Northeastern University, and BS in electrical engineering from Worcester Polytechnic Institute, Tommy worked for MIT Lincoln Lab, as staff and as consultant for over 30 years, and in several smaller companies, as a design and testing engineer.

Tommy was an avid hobbyist, with ham radio, model trains, auto racing, guitarist, sailing and kayaking, photography, sound technician for events, enjoyed tinkering and could fix almost anything. Tommy was a collector of books and antiques. She was a patron of the BSO and supporter of public radio and TV for over 30 years. Along with wife Gwen, they enjoyed traveling, museums, concerts and camping in their cabin in Vermont. Tommy was deeply spiritual, belonging to the Inayati Order of Sufis, studied with masters Pir Vilyat Inayat Khan and Pir Zia Inayat Kahn, attending many meditation retreats.

Through deep introspection, Tommy came to embrace the feminine nature, transitioning to a woman, with the love of support of her family and friends. She was a member of the Tiffany Club of NE.

A celebration of Tommy's life will be held Saturday, February 23rd, 2019 at 2:00 P.M. at the Acton Congregational Church, 12 Concord Road, (Off rte 27) Acton Center. Immediately following service, the life celebration will continue with family and friends invited to gather in the church's Hartman Hall until 4:00P.M.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Inayati Order at the specific link as follows:
https://interland3.donorperfect.net/weblink/weblink.aspx?name=E117941&id=1
Checks are also welcome made payable to The Inayati Order, 112 E Cary Street, Richmond, Virginia 23219.

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Service Details

  • Service

    Saturday, February 23rd, 2019 | 2:00pm
    When
    Saturday, February 23rd, 2019 2:00pm
    Location
    Acton Congregational Church
    Address
    12 Concord Road
    ACTON, MA 01720
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email
    A celebration of Tommy's life will be held Saturday, February 23rd, 2019 at 2:00 P.M. at the Acton Congregational Church, 12 Concord Road, (Off rte 27) Acton Center. A gathering for family and friends will follow until 4:00 P.M. in the church's Hartman Hall. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Inayati Order at the specific link as follows: https://interland3.donorperfect.net/weblink/weblink.aspx?name=E117941&id=1 Checks are also welcome made payable to The Inayati Order, 112 E Cary Street, Richmond, Virginia 23219. Please reference in the memo line "In memory of Tommy Hotaling"
  • Reception

    Location
    Hartman Hall, Acton Congregational Church
    Address
    12 Concord Road
    ACTON, MA 01720
    Get Directions: View Map | Text | Email
    Immediately following service, the life celebration will continue with family and friends invited to gather in the church's Hartman Hall until 4:00P.M.

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  • US Coast Guard

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phyre

Posted at 03:42am
I only knew Tommy for less than a year through a collaborative creative writing activity we were both part of. In that time, I came to respect her intelligence and technical knowledge and value her as a pal. Our little community is worse off without her and the characters she created.
 
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Gwen Hotaling Posted at 06:18pm

Thank you, phyre. If you could pass along this info to others in the online world we didn’t have access to, that would be great. If you would like to contact me directly, it’s gwenhotaling@ yahoo.com
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Bill Kindred

Posted at 05:22pm
Tommy inspired me and others. I wish I had spent more time with Tommy. Rest in Peace Tommy.
KM

Kathy Menne

Posted at 08:22am
REST IN PEACE . . .
Kathy Menne
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Eliot Gelwan

Posted at 04:13pm
Gwen and family -- I am so sorry for your loss. Words fail at a time like this. I was glad to have met Tommy and will miss her. If there is anything you need, do not hesitate!
KF

Kathleen Roberts Farrington

Posted at 09:16am
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